Monday, January 22, 2018


- Cat is 15 months old now. She has added the words "all done!" and "MINE" to her vocabulary. The second one she learned from her brother. (She will also yell ALL DONE ALL DONE at him when he's being too rough.) She also says "room room" when pushing around toy cars. Or toy dinosaurs. Or anything really. She has an inherent fascination with cars that makes my feminist heart happy.

- Her other favorite toys are a couple of baby dolls and a stuffed unicorn, though, so there's a bit of the stereotypical feminine there too.

- For a while she didn't like wearing headbands or hats or the like. Now, when you put a headband on her, she will toddle over to the mirror and jabber complimentary things at herself. If no mirror is handy, she is satisfied with selfie mode on my phone camera.

Her hair is also getting long enough to fall in her eyes, which means I will probably be glad for her tolerance of piggytails. 

- She still consistently calls Tad "bubba" and he usually calls her "little girl." The other day he managed, "Dat's MY truck, little girl!" and we were all very proud. She's also sometimes "baby girl." It's a near-daily occurance here that he will be too rough with her so we'll pick her up to move her to another room and he'll follow behind wailing "DAT'S. MY. BABY. GIRL."

- She can understand several verbal directions. For example, if I hand her a wrapped cheese stick and tell her, "Take that to Daddy so he can open it," she'll toddle across the house to find Daddy and hand him a cheese stick. (He usually takes the hint.) She has also figured out that "Watch your head" means that she needs to duck or get away from the fridge--it's one of those bottom freezer affairs with the bottom of the fridge door at just the right level to clock a 1-year-old in the head.

(A lot of our interactions center around the fridge, I've noticed.)

- She recently learned how to open and close the flip top on our Contigo straw cups, which is helpful to me because sometimes Tad leaves them closed and she gets mad.

She also learned how to climb up on the piano keys and "play" them by dancing back and forth. That's...less helpful.

- She has 13 teeth--8 incisors, 4 molars, and 1 canine. The other 3 canines might kill us all, though. 

Saturday, January 6, 2018


A few days after Christmas, we got a "free" piano. Which is to say the piano itself was free, but we had to hire professional piano movers to the tune of $185 because, as it turns out, pianos are quite heavy.

According to a Google search of the serial number, this piano is about 100 years old. It's definitely showing some wear and tear, but for now everybody enjoys it and we get the satisfaction of saving it from being chopped up for Pinterest crafts. (Apparently the type of wood it's made from is quite rare?) Down the road we can get some estimates for restoring it.

Cat is genuinely trying to figure out how the keys work. Tad is starting to show mild interest in that element, but mostly he just likes to climb on it. The top of the piano is currently his second-favorite spot to hang out with his tablet, since the baby hasn't yet figured out how to climb up there.

(His #1 favorite spot is the top of the fridge. It probably says something about his temperament that "sitting on top of the fridge" is one of the things he's allowed to do.)

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Chicken Tetrazzini

Loosely inspired by this recipe

A couple pounds of chicken breast
Olive oil
A package of mushrooms
An onion
A spoonful or two of minced garlic
A few good shakes of Italian seasoning
1/3 cup flour
1 cup chicken broth
3 or 4 cups of milk, who even cares
Parmesan cheese

A few days in advance, throw some chicken breasts in your crockpot and leave them there all day. Then cut them up and stick them in the fridge.

On the appointed day, put about a tablespoon each of butter and olive oil in a large skillet and heat until butter is melted. Add mushrooms, onions, garlic, and Italian seasoning. Chop the mushrooms and onion as big or as small as you like; I'm not the boss of you. Saute until they're nice and browned and fragrant.

Add flour and stir it around so the veggies are more or less evenly coated. Then add chicken broth and milk and simmer until it is nice and thick or until your children start screaming really loudly, whichever comes first.

Meanwhile, cook some pasta.

Mix it all together and serve with parmesan cheese.

(Scott's reaction: "I don't know what this is but I like it!")

Monday, January 1, 2018

2017 in review

Yoinking this from Sheila, because I can.

1. What did you do in 2017 that you'd never done before?
Bought a house. Participated in an IEP meeting. Basically I'm a real adult now.

2. Did you keep your New Year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
My resolution for 2017, which I don't think I ever posted here, was to "make room where there is no room." (I think this is from a hymn or something? Or a blog post I read long ago?) Not physical room, but metaphorical room. Room for my own needs to matter even when it was impossible to do anything about it because of the whole "two kids one of whom has special needs" thing. Because I was dealing with awful PPD and I knew it wasn't going to get better if I wasn't deliberate about it.

I went to therapy almost every week this year, so that's definitely a new record. I took my antidepressants. When said antidepressant stopped working well, I called my doctor and got on a different dose.

I also won NaNoWriMo. I still have no idea how I found the time for that (I seem to recall my house got very dirty) but I'm glad I did make room to have a hobby instead of fixating on housework and parenting and so forth.

I don't know what my resolution for 2018 is going to be. I've got time; the year is young.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
BASICALLY EVERYONE. Most recently my high school BFF had her first baby and I have been weirdly obsessed with worrying about her and hoping she's doing okay. (I also channeled that into sending a care package. I might have to send another one, though.)

4. Did anyone close to you die?
My cat? She was very old and very sick so it was not as hard as I was expecting it to be, but it's still weird to not have her there when I go visit my family.

I am pretty sure no human people died but I am worried now that I'm forgetting somebody and will feel terrible about it later.

5. What countries did you visit?

6. What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?
A swingset for the backyard. A chest freezer. SLEEEEEEEEEEP.

7. What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
I don't know about etched, but I will probably remember buying the house. (August 7.)

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
WE ALL SURVIVED. Also I made a lot of phone calls.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Way way too much yelling at my kids.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing major, but my A1C has been high so I've been trying to stay on top of that. And I sprained my knee mid-November and was in pain for WEEKS. It got better, fortunately.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Zoloft. Lots of ice cream. A house.

12. Where did most of your money go?
Definitely the house. Down payment + four months of mortgage + the plumbing here was put in by a chimpanzee on LSD and keeps getting broken and being complicated/expensive to fix.

13. What did you get really excited about?
I am actually an insectoid alien wearing a human skin. I don't have feelings inside my cold hard exoskeleton.

14. What song will always remind you of 2017?
Warning: Major earworm.

Now whenever I ask "Do you know where X is?" Scott will suggest that maybe it went "to the space."

15. Compared to this time last year, are you:
- happier or sadder? See above re: exoskeleton.
- thinner or fatter? Probably fatter. The second kid apparently killed my metabolism.
- richer or poorer? A lot richer. Hooray for new jobs that pay well!

16. What do you wish you'd done more of?

17. What do you wish you'd done less of?
Yelling at the kids. Lying on the floor while they climbed on me because I was too sad to get up or do anything.

18. How did you spend Christmas?
Discovering that the baby can open presents without help. Also we visited Scott's parents and Tad had one of his epic "scream like an air raid siren for 30 minutes straight" meltdowns. So that was fun.

19. What was your favorite TV program?
Sheila got us into The Big Bang theory and I think it's fairly excellent.

20. What were your favorite books of the year?
Um. Hm. I would tell you, but I've apparently forgotten nearly all of them.

21. What was your favorite music from this year?
The Phineas and Ferb soundtrack moved way, way up the list after Tad discovered Pink Fong.

22. What were your favorite films of the year?
Obviously my resolution for 2018 should be to keep some kind of media log.

23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Went to an IEP meeting and then had Domino's and a storebought cheesecake for dinner. I was 28.

24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Sleep is a given, so I'll go with "fewer 30-60 minute meltdowns from my 4yo."

25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?

26. What kept you sane?
Would saying "Zoloft and therapy" be too literal? Yes?

27. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.
Being an adult is mostly paperwork. Sorry, 20-years-ago self.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017


Cat is turning one tomorrow (weep weep) so I thought I'd jot down all the words she knows, for posterity.

Bubba (big brother)
bye (with wave)


Monday, October 9, 2017

I don't know what to write

As evidenced by the fact that I haven't posted in nearly five months.

You haven't missed that much, though. We spent late May through early August buying our first house, and since then we've been moving, fixing things up, blah blah homeownership blah.

Today I took pics of Tad's new room, just because it's actually set up mostly the way I want it and looks cozy. 

He much prefers to come sleep in our cluttered, disorganized room, though.

Monday, May 15, 2017

More milestones

Cat has been able to sit unassisted for maybe 5 seconds for a while now. Today she seemed to have some kind of muscular/vestibular leap and can suddenly sit for a couple of minutes at a time. After a few false starts she also seems to be learning how to sort of flop/roll to one side when she gets tired rather than flinging herself backwards and conking her head on the floor. (We have carpeted floors and live in the second storey of our building so it's not a hard conk, but it still displeasures her highness.)

Meanwhile, I have a pic of Tad from 6/18/14 where he was sitting up independently. (This one is from a week or two later because I like the similarity.) I had the idea that he was more like 8-9 months before he was sitting well but apparently I misremembered! So he would have been 6 months, 4 weeks, and 1 day; whereas Cat is currently 6 months, 3 weeks, and 5 days. It's a bit creepy how well they are hitting milestones together.